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Differences between a mother’s and father’s time

I have been meaning to write about the striking difference between how mothers and fathers appropriate their time on childcare duties. Generally why do mothers have a heavier workload of child-care? This include the grinding tasks of showers in the mornings, breakfast, change, lunch, school, nap time, dinner and bedtime routines. What about school homework and projects? Other ad-hoc situations that require all your time in planning and supervision?

According to the American Time Use Survey—which asks thousands of Americans annually to chronicle how they spend their days—men and women now work roughly the same number of hours a week (though men work more paid hours, and women more unpaid). Given this balanced ledger, one might guess that all would finally be quiet on the domestic front—that women would finally have stopped wondering how they, rather than their husbands, got suckered into such a heavy load. But they haven’t. The question is: Why?

In this modern era where women and men are supposedly equal in their stance, why is the main care-giver mostly the mothers? And are we supposed to do this at a long stretch without rightful help? Are mothers supposed to put their lives on hold once we have children?  Is it a wonder we sometimes feel like tearing our hair out?

I came across an article that rightly explains the reasons. And even though we mothers are more often than not madly in love with our kids, we do need a break from them. And guess who should be holding the fort when mothers need a break? Fathers? Yes, spot on.

mumYou can read the article below:

Why Mom’s Time Is Different From Dad’s Time

Surveys find that men and women work roughly the same number of hours a week—yet they experience their time very differently


Have a delightful weekend, all!

IMG_3931What are you up to this weekend? We are planning to go to the Singaplural 2015 exhibition on Saturday. Seems like a nice way to spur on the creativity. And also with the one week March school holiday coming up, I do hope you have set aside some time to spend one-on-one with your kiddos! I’m sure mine is all geared up! Have a delightful weekend, everyone!

personal Travels

Knock knock! Who’s there?

Shades of Vanille has been rather quiet. The last two-three months have been quite the ride for me. I know that I have been mentioning on the blog in my last few posts about the upcoming holiday we will take and that I will write about here, well THAT has come and gone too. Our try out for french-living that lasted for a whole month. My reason for not writing : un-motivation. Or so I thought because as it turned out, I was going through an emotional crisis; a first trimester that wasn’t meant to be :( i think i will leave it at that as there is nothing more to say. As for our break in France, I will try to compress the photos in one of my upcoming posts if you’d like to see them.

Moving forward, my 37th birthday a few days ago was all I hoped for it to be. Just good comforting company for the whole day and night ;) I realized that the older I grow, the lesser I need. And the more private I become. You start to want intangible things that make pleasurable memories for you. For now, it is good like that for me. And, as the clouds in my head begin to disperse, I see no reason not to continue as I meant to.

So post midweek, I just want to say Shades of Vanille is back in gear :) And for this occasion I’d like to mention a special shout out to the MY Monsieur for picking up the cue ever so subtly and his surprise for me. A one night stay at a boutique hotel downtown. No frills and no gimmicks, it was sublime! This little piece of haven right in the middle of the hustle and bustle of the city really made it a wonderful birthday treat.


How obscurely cute is the circular structure? I missed it a few times while just going round it !

Scene 2: IMG_3885How lush is this? Don’t know, we slept like babies :)

Scene 3:IMG_3888The best tiramisu I’ve ever tasted just because it’s my birthday ;)

Scene 4:rooftop barThe rooftop bar

Scene 5:


Hotel facade by night.

Final scene:


Oh well, we were happy although it’s not really clear here. Hmm…perhaps a new iphone is in order? <hint-hint>